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“Love Without Sex” Web Interview/Discussion

Originally aired November 26, 2012, this Huffington Post web interview discusses asexuality from a very honest and layperson viewpoint. There are no aggressive arguments here, and I think it would make a great resource to share with family and friends. You can view and post comments as well. Hosted by Janet Varney.

Guests include:
David Jay (San Francisco, CA), Founder, AVEN
Maddox (San Francisco, CA), LGBT Advocate and Educator
CJ Chasin (Windsor, Canada), Ph.D. Student in Applied Social Psychology, University of Windsor
Angela Tucker (Brooklyn, NY), Documentary Filmmaker

The webpage also cites an interesting resource: “Does Asexuality Fall Under the Queer Umbrella?” by Allison Hope, PR specialist and journalist, May 16, 2012. I think this particular matter is going to come up more and more as asexuality permeates into LGBT issues. It may take a while, but we’ll get there.

On a related matter, the (A)sexual documentary is now available in the USA on Netflix, according to Jeremy44 of AVEN. Click here to view the forum thread.

(A)sexual Film Review

I just had a chance to watch this film and wanted to submit some feedback for the community.

The documentary opens with people trying to describe a definition for asexuality, which often turned into the “asexual reproduction” we see in the animal kingdom. Their views are also interspersed throughout the film for definitions on “a relationship,” “love,” etc.

Featured are some of the common misconceptions of asexuality, which is still necessary to more fully explain the concept to those who are unfamiliar with it. We see David Jay trying to inform people about asexuality at a San Francisco Pride, a nonsexual couple enter into marriage, and even a brief clip of Janeane Garofalo doing standup and identifying as asexual. I think the documentary is very gratifying for other asexuals, who see it reinforced that they’re not alone, and that they can show this film to family, friends, and scholars for further recognition if they so choose.

The film also featured psychologists who had researched asexuality or self-identified asexuals and found nothing psychologically wrong with them because of their asexuality, which is always a great feeling. The professionals interviewed include (listed in no particular order):

  1. Lori Brotto, Associate Professor, Department of Gynecology, University of British Columbia
  2. Anthony F. Bogaert, Professor of Community Health Services and Psychology, Brock College (or Brock University)
  3. Cynthia Graham, Clinical Psychologist, The Kinsey Institute
  4. Carol Queen, Sexologist, Founder, Center for Sex and Culture
  5. Dan Savage, Sex Columnist, who sunk to the level of the women on The View. He basically stated that there was no reason for visibility if there’s no sex happening. But I suppose it’s always necessary to at least supply the opponent’s viewpoint.

The film also featured some individuals in the asexual community, such as David Jay, Swank Ivy, and a few others, both young and old, who risked possible embarrassment of any intimate details for the sake of asexual visibility. To me, it seemed like it was all very much worth it. People need to know that it’s perfectly normal to not desire sex. Swank Ivy seems to be getting along just fine on her own. David Jay shared with us a deeply personal story that I think reaches further to suggest that we are all very much fluid in all of our identities and orientations: romantic, sexual, gender, etc. We change, we grow, we learn; it’s all a part of life. The most important point from all of this, I think, is that we are all able to identify ourselves however we choose.

Overall, a great film and definitely worth getting out there more!

(A)sexual is available at iTunes for $14.99 or Amazon.com.

(A)sexual at Arts Engine, Inc. (includes trailer) and Big Mouth Films.